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10 Signs of Gaslighting in an Abusive Relationship
To gaslight someone is to manipulate them into questioning their own sanity. This is seen in abusive relationships and, even after the relationship ends, the effects of gaslighting can still progress. This is why it is important to identify such a relationship as soon as possible and remove gaslighters from your life, and keep them away from contact for at least a year if not permanently. It is a form of emotional abuse that gives the abuser power by making the victim question their own mentalities.
1. Your Fears Are Used Against You
Abusive people are often charming in order to extract information from you and use it against you later on. They take note of your vulnerabilities especially for this reason. The abuser will want to…
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The Chiron Signs
Chiron is an asteroid that is named after a centaur in Greek mythology who could not heal himself, but healed others due to his experience with pain and suffering. This placement indicates where an individual is wounded or hurt, how they can overcome this, and how they can heal others.
Chiron in Aries: The wound is related to the individual’s self-image and confidence. This individual will have issues standing up for themselves because they feel weak and insignificant. An Aries Chiron will in turn, try to create a tough and insensitive exterior to hide their pain, though most people can see through the shield they hide themselves in. It is unbelievable how much they have gone through and they will never truly heal. They do, however, have the ability to encourage confidence, will-power, and assertion in others.
Chiron in Taurus: The wound is related to the individual’s sense of comfort and security. This individual may have felt neglected or have had important people or possessions disappear from their life creating a deep impact in their heart. Holding onto their pain is the only way they can fill in what’s missing in their life, so they are slow at healing from their wounds. In time, they will realize how fulfilling it will be to finally let go of their past and fill their heart with compassion and love. They heal others by showing them the importance of finding value and worth in themselves.
Chiron in Gemini: The wound is related to the individual’s communication skills and self-expression. This individual will have problems communicating in a conventional way, possibly due to speech impediments, social anxiety, or other forms of an inability to communicate properly. They will also have trouble expressing themselves in a way that others will understand.
Because of their faults, they feel as though they are ignorant or uneducated. They will begin to heal when they realize their form of communication is unlike anyone else’s and this makes them special and unique. They can think of things no one else can and can speak/write in eccentric and captivating ways. They heal others by helping them find their voice and their creative expression.
Chiron in Cancer: The wound is related to the individual’s sense of self love and nourishment. This individual has likely undergone neglect or abuse in their early life, influencing them to feel insecure, emotional, and needy. They latch onto others like parasites, trying to suck out any form of love and care that they can. They can end up manipulating others just to get a reaction out of them because they need to feel like other people care.
They will often take for granted the people that show them love and affection without realizing. They will heal when they learn to love and accept themselves. For you cannot truly cherish the love given to you until you fully learn to love yourself. These individuals will shed their negative behaviors and opt for becoming loving, motherly, and devoted to all people. They will help heal others by teaching them to love and cherish themselves.
Chiron in Leo: The would is related to the individual’s ego and creative expression. This individual will either fear expressing their abilities or will try too hard to receive recognition and attention for their abilities, but they will definitely feel that they lack creativity and imagination and that they are not special or gifted. They feel that they are not welcomed or liked by anyone, as they feel worthless and annoying. They will begin to heal when they find the courage to truly be themselves and embrace it. They can heal and help others by encouraging them to be themselves and to not be afraid to stand out and express their talents.
Chiron in Virgo: The would is related to the individual’s worth. This individual will inherently feel as though something is wrong with them. They will feel incomplete, messy, and unclean. They will assume they cannot be fixed, whatever their issues are. Most with this placement have some form of nervousness or anxiety, especially involving themselves and their physical body.
They are so bound on being perfect that it can be to such an extreme that it is damaging to themselves. They will find healing when they learn that helping and serving others to love themselves and give love back to them eventually makes them feel complete. They have the ability to improve the lives of others due to their generosity and resourcefulness.
Chiron in Libra: The wound is relating to the individual’s relationships and sense of balance or harmony. This individual will experience issues in their platonic and romantic relationships in one of these ways: due to their insensitivity and manipulation tactics or because of their inability to handle conflict and confrontations. For the later, they are prone to experiencing abusive or toxic relationships often because they are a passive and vulnerable target.
These types are far too afraid of being alone and either behavior manifests because of this fear. If they are imbalanced as a person, they can acquire an assertive and toxic behavior onto others and this is due to that fear. They will find healing when they learn to compromise with others or avoid and end unhealthy relationships by learning to love themselves. This will usually occur from outside support. They can heal others by helping them nurture and love themselves.
Chiron in Scorpio: The would is related to the individual’s self-worth, sexuality, and perception of death and transformation. The individual will experience intense mood swings and catastrophic feelings, deep paranoia and anxiety in particular. They will have gone through some form of psychological trauma or abuse that causes them to become overly protective of themselves, their belongings, and their loved ones.
Deep inside of them, they harbor feelings of misery and guilt, even if they have not done anything wrong, leading them to self-destructive behaviors. They are on a journey to understand the meaning of life, transformation, and death. They will heal begin to heal when they learn to turn their pain into strength and beauty. They will possess the ability to heal others by teaching them that transformation and renewal is necessary to lead a healthy life.
Chiron in Sagittarius: The wound is related to the individual’s beliefs, morals, and values. This individual may express different opinions, beliefs, or personal values than that of their family or community, such as having a different religion, sexual orientation, or means of thinking/self expression. Because of their unconventional beliefs, they can feel as though there is something wrong with them, that their perspectives, values, and the way that they are deems them as worthless, meaningless, and misunderstood.
They will attempt to try and get their loved ones to understand them and likely will not receive a good outcome. This will lead them to believe they don’t see the world as everyone else and therefore cannot make sense of it. They will heal when they realize that there is nothing wrong with them and their “differences” are what make them who they are. Those who do not accept them should not be involved in their lives. They can heal others by teaching them the value of thinking for themselves.
Chiron in Capricorn: The wound is related to the individual’s need for stability and control, as well as their sense of trust and status/reputation. This individual will feel as though they are unappreciated and unrecognized for the things they do. They genuinely believe they are doomed to a life of chaos and unpredictability, influencing them to feel the need to take control of every situation. They feel very much that they are not as in control as they need to be and they tend to blame themselves when things go wrong, thinking they could have prevented it.
They over exert themselves and put so much pressure on themselves in an attempt to gain a reputable status, but their inability to trust others can cause issues in gaining a successful reputation. They will heal when they realize that it is not everyone else who does not value their hard work and devotion, it’s themselves. They must learn to appreciate and value themselves. They will have the ability to heal others through offering guidance and discipline in areas they need these traits.
Chiron in Aquarius: The wound is related to the individual’s sense of feeling accepted and welcomed in society. The individual will feel rejected and isolated due to their differences and eccentricities. They will have difficulties fitting into society and will therefore feel like there is something wrong or off with them. This person will feel all alone even if they have friends. They may not be able to fully connect with others out of fear they will be seen as weird.
They will begin to heal when they realize their differences are what make them unique and they can act as a trendsetter and revolutionary mind to lead society to bigger and better things. They possess the ability to show compassion and heal humanity with their generosity and individuality. They will heal others by supporting and encouraging them to be different and to be brave.
Chiron in Pisces: The wound is related to the individual’s sense of faith in themselves and in humanity. The individual will naturally feel victimized and betrayed from the moment they gain a realization that they are alive. They see the world as cruel and unfair with all of its poverty, hate, and violence. They are prone to developing cynicism, resentment, and a lack of trust in others and in religion or spirituality. They may have a hard time connecting with others because they expect betrayal and cruelty will eventually occur.
They will heal when they begin to realize that the hate in our society is due to restrictions and fears set upon humanity - which does not really matter in the long run. They will learn that the universe is vast and that they are alive for a reason. Compassion, sympathy, and understanding will wash over them and change their entire perspective. They will be able to heal others through teaching them the true meaning of life.
The truth is…
Aries:
- is a sassy bitch, let’s just accept that. always answering back, they’d even answer back to any god (may it be diplomatically or sarcastic)
- always give people cheap gifts not because they’re broke but because they think that’s the only standard or gift you deserve
- has a huge disgust with humanity so they either get delusions of controlling the world or they avoid/limit their human interactions
- their logic is out of this world: it’s either you get mesmerised and see a new horizon or you end up getting crazy because you can’t get it
- beneath all their layers, they’re one of the smartest and hardworking people out there… always willing to help you study/work/etc.
Taurus:
- their trigger word is literally food and all its proper nouns. they’d sell their souls for a ceaseless supply of food and they’d won’t regret
- literally possessive as fuck, aphrodite lives in their titties cos they dun calm down if they see someone circling around their man/woman.
- obsessed with getting shit organised y'all don’t even know. they will never move unless a very detailed blue print is in front of them.
- they will keep hustlin more than a twenty of you combined. they know and prioritise how precious time and money are.
- when they say they can’t do an errand/plea, dun quickly believe them at all cost or you’ll get a small surprise: they’ll do it after some while.
Gemini:
- know that archetype of a kind person who’ll obey & follow you to the death but has so many fucking personal motives? yep, that’s gemini.
- their knowledge and expertise are vastly scary; multilingual people and historians. they aint called GEMinis for nothing, hunty.
- for them, it’s a dog-eat-dog world. if you don’t match their pace, you’re basically out of their surviving list, whatever list that is.
- insanely in love and proud making other people swoon over them (oh the oozing warmth of being loved and respected) but says otherwise
- bad at remembering dates but that dun mean they love you less or you’re not that important to them, just believe in them.
Cancer:
- they dun talk much but best believe me, whenever they speak it’s either they gon hand you your ass or roast the living shit out of you
- are all terminally sarcastic bless their souls. they don’t have time for your bullshit, they don’t even have time for their own.
- they will never side or they will avoid picking a side. they’re the best people to rant cos they will literally get where you coming from.
- one of the sweetest and loving signs out there but for some reason, they tend to have some problems making real long time friends.
- always look brooding or even out of reach. that’s cos they’re afraid words/actions won’t come/show they way they really want them too.
Leo:
- so demure but once you get close to them/they know they have the upper control, they will fucking nag & bully everything
- but after the searing primadonna stage, these lions are all just smol precious clumsy beans who must be protected at all cost
- knows the traditional ways or romancing someone, like the flowers and cupcakes and shy yet formal asking you out for events/dates
- easily clouded by false/dark ideas and hard to snap them out of it. it takes another brave alpha who can help them out of the cray
- but don’t be fooled, these lions can be tamed and would be willing to tag along the right people for the rest of their life line.
Virgo:
- dont slack off in front of them, they will give your ass a whoop back to reality. trust me, they give so much vigour and moral to people.
- not easily scared of pretty much anything because they always think about the story/reason behind it, for this one, what made it scary?
- they can get super fucking salty and shady and they aint afraid of being salty and shady, for a good or bad reason whatsoever.
- they never fail to always see the bigger picture, that also means they’re not afraid to do everything to get to the biggest picture.
- loves having fun and enjoying life without taking advantage of things or forgetting to be humble and well-grounded.
Libra:
- too pure for this world but these people have a skyrocketing tendencies to becoming a yandere (lol they probably already are)
- their aesthetic perfectionism sickness is practically beyond all earth signs combined: they’ll set fire on anything lower than their standards.
- too kind and angelic we dun deserve them. we also dun deserve their life sucking flirtatious killer charms. we just dun deserve then all in all
- these bitches love to meddle with other people’s business tho. either they save the situation or aggravate it, there’s no in between
- even with all the hate on their kind, libra people just keep their heads up and tryn’a understand and accept other people’s view of them.
Scorpio:
- for the vagillionth time, y'all have to remember that these “””devil children””” are all just 4D weird bastards who easily space out.
- the sexy airheads we all get from anime. but dun cross them & their fambam, they won’t think twice about apathetically cutting you.
- everyone’s fairy godmother/father cos if they love you & they see you deserving, they will lavish &treat you so great. aint lying, dis the truth
- willing to learn from others but is obsessed with “i am the most mature one so my wisdom is the greatest and the only effective one”
- so many layers, like they’re literally never-ending. but after plucking all these layers out, you’ll see a fragile marshmallow baby inside
Sagittarius:
- they need like a dozen of hobbies as outlets for their energy. if they don’t get the energy out, they become a host of a time bomb.
- insatiably absorbs all information of all kinds like a baby on his mom’s chest or a tic sucking out blood from a fresh catch: you choose
- no one really knows if they’re showing genuine reaction/emotion cos you don’t know if they’re forcing it or not or they dun even know too
- is the jack of all trades cos they have so many talents but can’t focus and drill hard on one cos they jump from different talent to another
- may come arrogant but always they always want everyone to be happy and enjoying the time, probably more than how libra wants it.
Capricorn:
- always late on almost everything. insomniac children of the night, so no matter how dire the situation is, they’ll always be late. deal with it.
- condescending as fuck cos they know they can do pretty much anything please beware they are vicious machiavellians
- obsessed with segregating people in their lives; they don’t want their friends to socialise with their family, this group with that group, etc.
- avoids and gets easily tired with human interaction, but is magically brilliant with human interaction. their magic? idek ask them.
- after you pass their scrutinising sifting of people in their lives, you’ll just see a funny, dependent, happy-go-lucky, perverted side of them
Aquarius:
- also don’t like taking sides, will never jump onto anything without all the cards are seeable, yet also not afraid to speak up in the end.
- obsessed and deranged with their fanaticism of any horror shit idk how they can carry on with a fine stomach after all that scary jazz
- can never be controlled, they might seem controllable or easy to manoeuvre but spare your ass and don’t be fooled by this sign
- disappears and reappears at their own will, and doesn’t care about the consequences of their absence, they literally don’t care.
- in the end of the day, aquarius has no fucks to give any of the other signs. they don’t ask for a lot and they just wanna be left alone.
Pisces:
- are quiet little shits who looks way more gorgeous when they’re mad cos they just turn fiendish but still in a cute way, like wtf how???
- needs a fuck ton of guidance from older or more mature people cos they tend either the laziest, silliest, or most annoying things ever.
- how fucking annoying it is whenever they pull out the victim card like dude shove that thing back where it belongs or so I will.
- are actually sensible people, kinda shocking for some but it’s the truth cos these people stay in tune with their emotions, they dun run away
- break them to pieces and you’ll see a child needing to be loved and wanting to know what are the things that they can improve and learn
(via wohenpiaoliang)
this is such a good idea
Some bars also have a “ask for Angela” policy
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